The I won’t text back but I’ll troll your insta, syndrome

That “I can’t text back, but I’ll troll your insta”, syndrome.

So my best guess at this syndrome is simple: I don’t think some guys are tech savvy, or aware enough, to realize that WE CAN SEE them. We see you, dipshit.

Some men have stronger mood swings than women, not that they would ever admit it. They don't handle stress well. When women are stressed, we yearn for companionship and affection. When men are stressed, they want their space.

So next time a guy ignores you, mentally move on. Immediately. It’s raining men in some cities, so don’t wait, not even a day.

Also, while I know and concur that it is absolutely frustrating to keep multiple guys on your radar at once (let's face it, it's not in our nature) - just try! OR do what I have been doing for the last 6 months which is going on a BOYCOTT. It's so nice to just take time on your self. Hyper focus on yourself and improve while you self care.

If he hasn't texted you back in two days

If he hasn't texted you back in 2 days - guy type A

There are two types of guys type A and type B guys. Type A guys are super outgoing and ambitious. They usually have a very full social and business calendar. Most of these type A guys can be described as working way too much, and therefore don’t have much time for anything else. Therefore, if your Type A guy has not texted you back in 2 days, you shouldn't worry, he is probably very busy. He may be waiting for the right time and doesn't want to seem over eager and turn you off too quickly. It also depends on their age. Older type A guys will generally take their time. So if your older type A guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days - don’t worry. Younger type A guys might be more inclined to text you, hastily, and may even agitate you. If you text a type A guy first, he will be slower to respond. So refrain from texting him, because it might upset you! Type A guys also want to know that you are independent and can handle being away from them for a while, so don’t give in to the anxiety and wait for them to text you first. Type A guys aren't always looking to settle down, so don’t beat yourself up if he doesn't text you back in 2 days. Make sure to treat your Type A guys relationship light - don’t take him too seriously - this will encourage him to put in more effort. The less attention you give him the better. Also, remember to always be extra sweet to him - don’t abide by the myth that if you treat a guy mean that he will be more attracted to you. Be so sweet that he can’t resist going back to you. 

If he hasn't texted you back in 2 days - guy type B

If your type B guys hasn't texted you back in 2 days you shouldn't worry. Type B guys are generally the creative type and might have lost track of time. Type B guys are also less likely to over-analyze a situation. In other words, if there is a reason to text you, he will. If he has no reason , like no upcoming plans, or if he knows he is going to be busy, he will refrain from texting you. Type B guys are also generally more reserved, if you shoot them a text they will be more likely to respond, and faster, than a type A guy. So if your type B guy hasn’t texted you back in 2 days then I would recommend giving him a text. He will most likely text back and fast. And always be yourself - if you are the type that likes to text first, do it. Some guys appreciate girls that put in the extra effort. And some guys, especially type B shy guys, prefer to be chased. They are too shy to chase you themselves. 

When you should start worrying if he hasn't texted you back in two days

You shouldn't worry if a guy hasn't texted you back in two days. Two days in guy-land is not a long time. You should only start worrying after two weeks. By that point, the guy has either been carried away by other circumstances in his life or he has moved on for no reason. Remember that not all guys are looking to settle down, some just date for fun, and they might not tell you right away, but eventually you will find out. In general, if your instinct is telling you that nothing is wrong then most likely it’s true. Let things happen naturally, don’t force it. If you don’t feel the need to text him, if he hasn't texted in 2 days, don’t. If you are truly curious after two weeks, you can text him - but you risk not getting a text back or starting up an argument. And some times short lived relationships are good for you! So don’t get discouraged or think of it in a negative way. Some women tend to assume there is something wrong with their appearance or personality if a guy doesn't text back - but sometimes it’s just circumstantial. Stay motivated to move on to the next guy!

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after sex.

This is a major no-no, and guys know this. If you have recently just had a great date, or great sex and the guy hasn't texted you back after 2 days, assume he was only in it for the sex or fling. Most guys will text the next day following sex and if they don’t - then don’t beat yourself up about it - consider it a lesson and good riddance! I know it is too easy to say good riddance - sometimes this part can really hurt. So make sure you call your closest girlfriends and plan an outing or a get together. Make sure your friends know what is going on in your life so they can support you and you can all talk about things together - talk therapy is real. This way you won’t feel so alone and you will get over it faster. Going out also helps to get over one quickly - so make sure you rip off that bandaid and enjoy yourself! Also, if a guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days, don’t text him at all. It is disrespectful to ignore a girl after sex so don’t put yourself in that position to be walked all over. If you text him too soon after sex it will give him the upper hand and he will think that he can text you whenever he wants for sex. Unless you are open to a sex-only relationship, do not go this route. Some women think they can trick men into a relationship - but if they aren’t looking for a relationship they usually stand by that stance firmly.

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after an argument.

If it has been two days since your guy hasn't texted you back, and your last message or phone call was an argument, you might want to try giving him a ring or text first. The best way to handle this is to talk about how the argument made you feel and ask him how he feels as well. Guys need attention too some times! If the guy thinks that he was in the right , he will definitely not text you first. Some guys are very prideful and will not reach out to you if they know they were in the right. They are also very hesitant to admit that they are wrong, so you really need to over communicate in order to get the information you need out of him. If he knows he did something wrong, he will most likely wait a few days, but then send flowers or an I’m sorry text, especially if he really likes you. If you think you were not in the wrong, but he disagrees, then discuss it! It’s always best to get everything out in the open and communicate. Communicating is hard but that is how your relationship will grow. Also, if your guy hasn't texted you back 2 days after an argument, and you are pretty certain you were in the right - you can text him first but only to express yourself, not to apologize. Sometimes women tend to apologize for things they haven’t done wrong. So be careful with your words after an argument. Never apologize, and don’t ever feel guilty for something you didn't do. If someone refuses to knowledge that you were right and they were wrong - let it go. Forgive them for not agreeing with you, but don’t apologize. Also, don’t give in to apologizing just to bring a relationship back to life. You don’t want to force a relationship to keep going if it is healthier to end it. There is such a thing as an unhealthy relationship. So if you find yourself arguing a lot, make sure to take proper measure to ensure you are both communicating properly & working towards improving your connection. If communication doesn't work - then it might be best to end it, even if it is painful. Sometimes moving on helps you grow as an individual, which might lead you to your next best relationship. 

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after a big event.

If you and your guy recently just went to a big event, and both your calendars are jam packed, then don’t sweat it if he hasn't texted you back in 2 days. Some guys need a short break. And a break can be good for your relationship - it builds intensity & interest if you aren't texting one another every minute of the day. So if your gut tells you everything is ok, then just go with it. Enjoy this time off and enjoy yourself so that you can get back into the relationship refreshed. This way you will also have something new to tell your partner and you will seem more exciting to them as a person. Also, its not just a break that people need, but “me time”, as well as time to simply run errands. So if your calendars are jam packed, and you just had a great time at your last work party, maybe he just needed some time to finish up some business.