The I won’t text back but I’ll troll your insta, syndrome

That “I can’t text back, but I’ll troll your insta”, syndrome.

So my best guess at this syndrome is simple: I don’t think some guys are tech savvy, or aware enough, to realize that WE CAN SEE them. We see you, dipshit.

Some men have stronger mood swings than women, not that they would ever admit it. They don't handle stress well. When women are stressed, we yearn for companionship and affection. When men are stressed, they want their space.

So next time a guy ignores you, mentally move on. Immediately. It’s raining men in some cities, so don’t wait, not even a day.

Also, while I know and concur that it is absolutely frustrating to keep multiple guys on your radar at once (let's face it, it's not in our nature) - just try! OR do what I have been doing for the last 6 months which is going on a BOYCOTT. It's so nice to just take time on your self. Hyper focus on yourself and improve while you self care.

recipe: easy VEGAN GLUTEN FREE rice & garbanzo beans

Prep Time: 5 min

Cook time: 15-30min

Ingredients:

Half cup of Rice

1 can Garbanzo Beans

1 tsp Turmeric 

Salt & Pepper to taste

Half an onion, chopped small 

1/2 tsp coconut oil

Serves 2

Steps:

1. Chop Onions

2. Place 1/2 tsp coconut oil in pan on medium heat.

3. Grill onions for 3-4 minutes, or until golden brown

4. Rinse rice

5. Add the rice + garbanzo beans to the pan

6. Cover with 2 cups water

7. Add salt, pepper, and turmeric & stir

Boil for about 15 min on low or until rice is cooked thoroughly.

Easy peasy ;) 

xo 

this ones for the boys...

i have to argue for a minute, in favor of men. in favor of the good ones that exist. Because in my life, I have some amazing men. I am #blessed. My father, who is made of gold, and my male cousins (the younger ones) , also made of gold. not pure gold...i can't say they are perfect, because no one is, but they TRY. They are WOKE.

i can't help but worry that all this man-hating is going to make men resent us. a few times now, a man has refused to help me pick up a large package, or help keep the door open for me, or what seems to have been purposefully walking past me with some anger. and i believe it is due to what is going on in the media currently. The #metoo, the #timesup etc.

As a woman, it is hard to not defend other women, regardless. I stand by women on all topics, and yes I agree, for SOME it is #timesup.  But I would hate to categorize all men as such men that have made headlines recently.

I support the type of feminism that captures sexuality as strength and respect. I prefer to flip the script on sexuality. There is nothing wrong with it. And I can't say that it's wrong for a man to act out on his instincts (at the bar, on the street - not at work).

So this in favor of them and in favor of wearing your sexuality on your sleeve, and in favor of men holding the door open for me.

I love flirting.

And I worry that flirting, simple flirting, is what these men will stop doing for fear of any backlash.

We already live in a prudish society. Doesn't this send the wrong message to normal guys? To tell them to stay away from us? Is that what we want?

I think that eroticism is the highest form of intelligence. So yes, it is important to keep it tame when in certain situations.

But may we always flirt in the hallways outside of work. On the streets. And in bars.

Rich Boy Part II

Rich Boy Part II

Apparently people are actually reading this, so I’ll keep it going. 

Rich boy. The one and only.

Lets give him a name.

Shawn.

Shawn owned a hedge fund and lived in Manhattan. All facts. I’m not even changing city names to cover up who he is.

He was fast.

He texted me non-stop for a week, almost every hour and he would respond back very fast, within seconds. And told me he loved me, almost immediately.

Stupid girl.

I was 27 and so into his style. He was 36. Not a huge difference.

He had a sweet youthful face, about 5'10", but with an og swagger and speak. Your typical LA bad boy. He knew how to dress too. Hermes belts, red gucci shoes, tom ford jackets etc. He was my Mr. Grey, minus the weird sadistic traits. He would comment on my style and tell me to dress better (lmbo).

He knew exactly how to talk to me. He would say things like ,”let’s go somewhere far. I’ll take you on a trip with me”. Or, “I want us to have babies”. He would text me screen shots of the amount in his bank accounts and ask me for my address, so he could "send me something".

He was also overly affectionate when in public. He was definitely not shy. Lots of hair grabbing, body grabbing, sweet talking, up close & personal. All in public. Oh. my. yum.

It was all him, I didn't have to say a thing, it was great.

I can’t even handle how stupid I was for believing all this. I still can’t even believe I’m writing this all out.

We only hung out a total of 7 times in one year. But we would talk on the phone nonstop & text nonstop. I knew he had a busy lifestyle because of work - one week in Chicago, one week in Dallas, one week in Florida…etc…so I waited it out.

It was worth it at first. It was great seeing him after long periods of times. He would give me what I call now, “breadcrumbs” - he would sprinkle these breadcrumbs every now and then. He would call me baby constantly. And text I love you constantly. He would end every call with, “I’ll see you soon”. And then text me I love you after we hung up. Even though I would never see him. He would call me every night and we would have two hour conversations. So it FELT like a relationship - you with me ?

Don’t feel bad for me. This is not a sad story, I can laugh now at how stupid I was for going along in his game.

To be continued…..

110 spontaneous ways to be kind

Spontaneous ways to be kind

1. Being kind means paying it forward. If someone purchases you a gift, send them something of equal or lesser value in return.
2. Volunteer! Being kind means volunteering. Search online for volunteering opportunities in your neighborhood. Check your city’s page - they might be able to connect you.
3. Being kind means donating to charities , especially to people that are within 3 degrees of you. If you happen to see your friend post a link to a friend that has recently been sick, donate, even if you don't know that person directly. 
4. Start a ongoing group text with all of your cousins, or closest friends, and text everyone something funny every once in a while just to break up the seriousness of life.
5. Being kind means offering to pick someone up or drop someone off at the airport.
6. Being kind means offering to do your relatives or close friends makeup or nails for their prom/formal.
7. If you are close in line to someone who is having issues at the register, and if you are able to afford it, kindly offer to pay for the rest of their groceries/goods.
8. If you see someone struggling with carrying something into a building or a room - offer to help!
9. Being kind means setting up birthday reminders on your calendar , recurring yearly, so that can you send friends (old or recent) happy birthday messages.
10. If your friend is at your house and mentions something they like, kindly send it to them a few weeks later (if you can afford to) . They will be surprised and will love it.
11. Be kind & thoughtful every day in any situation - at work, on the bus, in a grocery store - if someone looks sad , be extra kind and gentle .
12. If you know your friend is into a particular hobby, and you come across a book/item online or at the store - send it to them, or save it for the holidays. This way the gift will be more personal and thoughtful.
13. Being kind means putting together a kit for the homeless and passing them out during very cold days. They will appreciate it.
14. Being kind means being a pen pal! If you have a long distance friend, send them a handwritten card every once in a while. It would be such a nice change from emails/texting , etc.
15. Being kind means lending something to a close friend  if they need it (a car, an outfit) and not expecting anything in return. 
16. Being kind means offering to do the dishes if someone cooks you a lovely meal.
17. If you are a guest at someone’s home offer to help in the kitchen during and after.
18. If you are invited a friend’s home, bring a bottle of wine or a dessert with you.
19. Being kind means booking a spa day for your friends if you have all been collectively stressed out.
20. Being kind means emailing/texting your friends old pictures of past outings together, at random. 
21. Being kind means texting your friends with, “so what did you have for lunch”, at random. It will make them smile.
22. Being kind means texting your distant friends with, “just checking in”..every few months. Since everyone is so busy, don’t expect a long conversation. So a simple quick note will be appreciated.
23. Being kind means offering up your gym’s guest pass to your friend.
24. Being kind means taking your friend with you as a plus one, to an event you were invited to.
25. Being kind means visiting your friends! Make sure to visit your long distance friends at least once every 2 to 3 years. Mark your calendar so too much time doesn't pass in between.
26. If your friend just moved into a place, offer to help with any furniture building they need to complete.
27. Being kind means offering up your old phone/mattress/computer to a friend or relative instead of throwing it away.
28. If you have a garden, offer the fresh fruit and vegetables up to your neighbors often.
29. If you have a few great recipes, hand write them out and pass them out to your friends. 
30. Being kind means organizing a meet-up of like-minded individuals at a beach and have an outdoor event.
31. Being kind means offering to take your friends’ photos when you are out and about - don’t wait for them to ask.
32. If you see a couple or a group of friends taking a selfie - offer to take their photo of them, especially while traveling. 
33. If you are in a foreign country - don't be afraid to talk to the people next to you at the restaurant. They will most likely love it!
34. If someone looks lost on the street , especially in a big busy city, offer to help guide them in the right direction.
35. Being kind means smiling. Don’t be afraid to smile. Smile at strangers, for no reason . It will make you feel good and they will most likely pass on the smile to someone else.
36. If you know of two great likeminded business individuals - offer to introduce them for networking purposes! 
37. If you are offered an introduction to meet someone new, make sure you follow up with that introduction so that the person that introduced you does not regret making it.
38. If you don't have time to set people up (business or personal) - kindly send a quick e-introduction to the two.
39. If you are a guest at a friends home for more than a few days, offer to take out the trash or buy them dinner one night in return for their generosity.
40. Being kind means being a mentor! Offer to take a younger colleague out to coffee or lunch and offer your best work advice. 
41. Send emails to your local city official about simple things in your neighborhood that could be worked on - its the little things that count.
42. Being kind means editing your friends college essays / homework if you can.
43. If you have old books that you no longer need - donate them to your local library or charity.
44. Being kind means donating old clothes to a local church or a woman’s center.
45. Attend your local neighborhood watch meetings - be active in your community.
46. Being kind means visiting your local hospital during the holidays and pass out toys or presents.
47. Being kind means tipping extra during the holidays.

Being Kind to Friends

48. If you are visiting a friend with a baby, offer to take care of the baby while the parents cook/host.

49. If you're friend has just moved to a new apartment, or purchased a new house, send them a small homecoming gift within 3 weeks of them moving in. Some great ideas are a bath set (lotion, soap, scrub) , a wine glass set, some drinking cups, or any other small knick knacks that will help them love their new place.

50. If you know your friend is scheduled to have a doctors appointment or a surgery and you know the date, kindly jot down the date on your calendar, set a reminder, and make sure to send them a feel better card immediately after. 

51. If you know of a friend’s parent or other who is scheduled to have a surgery - make sure you text them the day of with something like: “Just thinking of you today, please keep me posted on the recovery of your mom”

52. Volunteer to baby sit for your friend or sister or relative. Make sure your friends know you are there for them if they ever need you.

53. Being kind means sending your friends “just thinking about you” text messages at random.

54. Being kind means texting your friends two days prior to your scheduled meet up with, “can’t wait to see you on Saturday”

55. Being kind means cooking for your friends. Cook for your friend’s on their birthday!

56. Being kind means offering to help a friend out with their new adventure (new business) etc.

57. Being kind means hosting a dinner of your closest friends.

58. If you know your friend has recently broken up from their relationship, follow up with them weekly and ask them how they are doing. Try to offer advice, if you can.

59. If your friend is moving to a new city, offer to help them look for an apartment. Or kindly go with them to the new city so they feel supported.

60. If your friend gets a new job - send them flowers to their office on their first day / during the first week!

61. Being kind means setting up a reminder to follow up with a friend after they had an interview and ask how it went.

62. Being kind means taking your friend out for a celebratory drink after they get a promotion or a new job.

DIY Kind Things to do

63. Make sure to always keep handy some stationary of thank you cards in a shoe box or other area where they are safe. Use these thank you cards immediately after someone buys you something, or does something kind to you.

64. Being kind means sewing vintage pins or patches on a new shirt and give to your friend as a unique gift.

65. Being kind means taking up a few DIY projects in your spare time and give a few to your friends for no reason.

66. Being kind means making a box of hand made aphorisms to your friends as gifts.

Being kind during the holidays

67. Being kind means calling your friends. If you know your friend is having a hard time at work, or is alone during the holidays - make sure you give them a call. Even if it is just to say hello.

68. During the holidays, do not send mass text messages, make sure to take the time to send kind personal messages to each of your friends and spell out their full name.

Being Kind to Relatives

69. Offer to check your niece/cousins homework for them after they are done.

70. If you know your younger sibling/relative is going on their first trip overseas - send them some money to help them with the costs. 

71. Being kind means calling your parents/elder relatives as much as possible! If you don't have a lot of time on your hands - schedule a weekly call so they know when to expect you - they will look forward to it.

72. Being kind means spending some time teaching your elder parents or relatives some new technology tricks. Being kind means offering to take your grandma to the doctor’s once in a while.

73. Being kind means offering to clean your mom’s house during the holiday’s, or schedule a cleaner to come and surprise them.

74. Being kind means ordering groceries online and have them delivered to your parents once in a while.

75. Text your parents in the morning for no reason . Just say, “morning mom & dad” with a smile.

Being Kind to Coworkers

76. Being kind means buying your boss coffee once in a while.

77. Being kind means buying your coworkers lunch once in a while.

78. If you bake something good over the weekend, wrap some individual pieces for your closest peers/coworkers.

79. If someone seems upset at work for no reason, always assume that there is a possibility something is not going well at home, and be extra nice for no reason. Don’t pry, just be mentally aware and understanding. 

80. If you know of a friend/coworker/relative that is having a hard time with something, send them flowers to their home with a note that says, “just because”.

Be Kind for no reason 

81. If there is a new product that you just bought and loved - buy it for your friends.

82. Being kind means hosting a baby shower or wedding shower at your house/apartment 

83. Offer to organize your friends closet for them as a substitute for a gift .

84. If you know your friend is traveling to a particular region, send them a travel book for that region in the mail before their trip.

85. If you know your friend is looking to lose weight , offer to go hiking with them on the weekends and make sure you offer up your best healthy recipes and advice too.

86. Tag your friends in relative posts online so they know you are thinking of them, and so it is personalized.

87. If you happen to be in the neighborhood of your friend - text them and say - “hey i’m here do you want to meet up?” Be spontaneous! They will love it.

88. If you really want to go to a particular event, or concert, purchase two tickets. Start asking your friends if any of them would want to go . This way they don't feel pressured to pay and you have a side kick for your event!

89. If you are in a relationship but your friend is single, make sure to always schedule girl/guy only nights out!

Fun ways to be kind

90. Set someone up! If you know of two single people in your life and think they would be a great fit - say something! Your friend might be too shy to ask for it themselves, so offer it up.

91. If you know your friend is visiting a place that you have been to before - send them your itinerary and give them suggestions of the best things to do and what to avoid. 

92. Being kind means offering to style your fiend’s hair for an event.

93. If you know your friend is visiting town in a few weeks, book a restaurant / even ahead of schedule for the both of you.

94. Being kind means offering your spare room/bed for a friend visiting town, even if you know they are going to say no. It’s the gesture that counts.

95. If you win some money at a raffle - give some of it away to your friends just for fun!

96. Always offer help when you know someone is moving - everyone knows moving is hard and it’s just a few hours out of your time.

97. If you recently finished a book that you love, send it to your friend , and ask them to do the same when they are done.

98. Being kind means sharing an animal! If you want an animal but can’t afford one - share one with a friend! Share the responsibilities of the bills and the time .

99. If you know how to knit/sew, knit something for your friends during the holidays. It will give you a new fun task and they will love it as well.

100. Draw something new and give it to a friend!

101. Being kind means hosting a pot luck at your home!

102. Being kind means hosting a game night at your home.

103. At dinner, start up a conversation asking everyone to discuss their high’s and lows of the day. So they know you care, plus it starts a great conversation.

104. If your friend just started a business - kindly buy something from their business to show your support.

105. Being kind means offering up encouragement at every opportunity to your friends & relatives. Constantly compliment your friends so they feel their best.

106. If you are arguing with your friend, make sure to stop and emphasize the good things about your relationship, so you don’t get carried away with petty insignificant issues.

Being Kind to lovers

107. Being kind means paying for your friend/lover/relative’s dinner one night.

108. Being kind means texting your boyfriend/girlfriend each night with a simple “good night” or “just thinking of you”

109. If your girlfriend or boyfriend has been talking about something they have been really wanting to go to (like a restaurant) - surprise them one day and take them.

110. Being kind means surprising your girlfriend/boyfriend/friend with a spontaneous local inexpensive trip - to a nearby city with a resort, for the weekend.

If he hasn't texted you back in two days

If he hasn't texted you back in 2 days - guy type A

There are two types of guys type A and type B guys. Type A guys are super outgoing and ambitious. They usually have a very full social and business calendar. Most of these type A guys can be described as working way too much, and therefore don’t have much time for anything else. Therefore, if your Type A guy has not texted you back in 2 days, you shouldn't worry, he is probably very busy. He may be waiting for the right time and doesn't want to seem over eager and turn you off too quickly. It also depends on their age. Older type A guys will generally take their time. So if your older type A guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days - don’t worry. Younger type A guys might be more inclined to text you, hastily, and may even agitate you. If you text a type A guy first, he will be slower to respond. So refrain from texting him, because it might upset you! Type A guys also want to know that you are independent and can handle being away from them for a while, so don’t give in to the anxiety and wait for them to text you first. Type A guys aren't always looking to settle down, so don’t beat yourself up if he doesn't text you back in 2 days. Make sure to treat your Type A guys relationship light - don’t take him too seriously - this will encourage him to put in more effort. The less attention you give him the better. Also, remember to always be extra sweet to him - don’t abide by the myth that if you treat a guy mean that he will be more attracted to you. Be so sweet that he can’t resist going back to you. 

If he hasn't texted you back in 2 days - guy type B

If your type B guys hasn't texted you back in 2 days you shouldn't worry. Type B guys are generally the creative type and might have lost track of time. Type B guys are also less likely to over-analyze a situation. In other words, if there is a reason to text you, he will. If he has no reason , like no upcoming plans, or if he knows he is going to be busy, he will refrain from texting you. Type B guys are also generally more reserved, if you shoot them a text they will be more likely to respond, and faster, than a type A guy. So if your type B guy hasn’t texted you back in 2 days then I would recommend giving him a text. He will most likely text back and fast. And always be yourself - if you are the type that likes to text first, do it. Some guys appreciate girls that put in the extra effort. And some guys, especially type B shy guys, prefer to be chased. They are too shy to chase you themselves. 

When you should start worrying if he hasn't texted you back in two days

You shouldn't worry if a guy hasn't texted you back in two days. Two days in guy-land is not a long time. You should only start worrying after two weeks. By that point, the guy has either been carried away by other circumstances in his life or he has moved on for no reason. Remember that not all guys are looking to settle down, some just date for fun, and they might not tell you right away, but eventually you will find out. In general, if your instinct is telling you that nothing is wrong then most likely it’s true. Let things happen naturally, don’t force it. If you don’t feel the need to text him, if he hasn't texted in 2 days, don’t. If you are truly curious after two weeks, you can text him - but you risk not getting a text back or starting up an argument. And some times short lived relationships are good for you! So don’t get discouraged or think of it in a negative way. Some women tend to assume there is something wrong with their appearance or personality if a guy doesn't text back - but sometimes it’s just circumstantial. Stay motivated to move on to the next guy!

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after sex.

This is a major no-no, and guys know this. If you have recently just had a great date, or great sex and the guy hasn't texted you back after 2 days, assume he was only in it for the sex or fling. Most guys will text the next day following sex and if they don’t - then don’t beat yourself up about it - consider it a lesson and good riddance! I know it is too easy to say good riddance - sometimes this part can really hurt. So make sure you call your closest girlfriends and plan an outing or a get together. Make sure your friends know what is going on in your life so they can support you and you can all talk about things together - talk therapy is real. This way you won’t feel so alone and you will get over it faster. Going out also helps to get over one quickly - so make sure you rip off that bandaid and enjoy yourself! Also, if a guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days, don’t text him at all. It is disrespectful to ignore a girl after sex so don’t put yourself in that position to be walked all over. If you text him too soon after sex it will give him the upper hand and he will think that he can text you whenever he wants for sex. Unless you are open to a sex-only relationship, do not go this route. Some women think they can trick men into a relationship - but if they aren’t looking for a relationship they usually stand by that stance firmly.

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after an argument.

If it has been two days since your guy hasn't texted you back, and your last message or phone call was an argument, you might want to try giving him a ring or text first. The best way to handle this is to talk about how the argument made you feel and ask him how he feels as well. Guys need attention too some times! If the guy thinks that he was in the right , he will definitely not text you first. Some guys are very prideful and will not reach out to you if they know they were in the right. They are also very hesitant to admit that they are wrong, so you really need to over communicate in order to get the information you need out of him. If he knows he did something wrong, he will most likely wait a few days, but then send flowers or an I’m sorry text, especially if he really likes you. If you think you were not in the wrong, but he disagrees, then discuss it! It’s always best to get everything out in the open and communicate. Communicating is hard but that is how your relationship will grow. Also, if your guy hasn't texted you back 2 days after an argument, and you are pretty certain you were in the right - you can text him first but only to express yourself, not to apologize. Sometimes women tend to apologize for things they haven’t done wrong. So be careful with your words after an argument. Never apologize, and don’t ever feel guilty for something you didn't do. If someone refuses to knowledge that you were right and they were wrong - let it go. Forgive them for not agreeing with you, but don’t apologize. Also, don’t give in to apologizing just to bring a relationship back to life. You don’t want to force a relationship to keep going if it is healthier to end it. There is such a thing as an unhealthy relationship. So if you find yourself arguing a lot, make sure to take proper measure to ensure you are both communicating properly & working towards improving your connection. If communication doesn't work - then it might be best to end it, even if it is painful. Sometimes moving on helps you grow as an individual, which might lead you to your next best relationship. 

If your guy hasn't texted you back in 2 days after a big event.

If you and your guy recently just went to a big event, and both your calendars are jam packed, then don’t sweat it if he hasn't texted you back in 2 days. Some guys need a short break. And a break can be good for your relationship - it builds intensity & interest if you aren't texting one another every minute of the day. So if your gut tells you everything is ok, then just go with it. Enjoy this time off and enjoy yourself so that you can get back into the relationship refreshed. This way you will also have something new to tell your partner and you will seem more exciting to them as a person. Also, its not just a break that people need, but “me time”, as well as time to simply run errands. So if your calendars are jam packed, and you just had a great time at your last work party, maybe he just needed some time to finish up some business.

How to create a love potion.

I believe in magic. And so should you. Magic is nothing more than embracing energy as being real. Accepting that energy is real. Energy moves things, and therefore if you have the mental strength to create your own energy - you can MOVE things - a.k.a MAGIC ;)

Now for this love potion.

What you will need:

1. A clear small flask w/ a cork.

2. Red Rose petals & jasmine buds
3. White Sage

4. Abalone Shell

5. 3 or 4 small rose quartz

6. A mini Cauldron (to house incense)

7. Charcoal for immediate burning

8. Powdered herb incense - red sandlewood powder

9. 1 to 2 Pieces of clear quartz (or pink if you don't have it)

10. LOVE potion oil - you can find one on etsy or you can buy rose/jasmine/tuberose
11. A small ribbon
12. A pair of scissors
13. A pink or red candle

14. Jojoba oil (or any other base oil - extra virgin olive oil)

STEPS

1. Arrange all of your elements together on a small table cloth
2. Meditate on love & pulse energy from you hands over your set up
3. Envision your ideal love
4. Light the sage & move it in a clockwise motion over your set up. This will bless the area and bring it up to the vibration of love.
5. Bring the sage smoke around your feet to "cleanse" your feet and press your feet firmly on the ground to build a connection
6. Breathe in and out deeply throughout the process
7. Light your red candle & envision love and energy
8. As you light your candle pray, "Bright Venus, Bless this Circle . Honor & Empower my spell.
9. Burn the charcoal w/ the red candle & create incense for consecration.
10. Hover the rose quartz over the burning charcoal to bless it, and add the sandlewood powder. This will help raise the vibration of love around you and your elements.
11. Drop the love oil over the charcoal to build the smoke & incense.
12. Hover your clear crystals over the smoke + give them a smoke bath.
13. Add more red sandlewood & keep energy moving
14. Bless the oil bottle & say, "This oil blessed in purity is blessed by the goddess, blessed by me & charged to draw love to me". Run the bottle through the smoke.
15. Uncork your flask , add 1/3 of Jojoba oil to it
16. Add love oil to your cauldron, run the small broken rose quartz crystals through the smoke. Bless from smoke, fire & air as one. Drop the broken rose quartz into the flask.
17. Envision love & light.
18. Bless your jasmine buds by hovering them over the smoke & then drop them into the flask w/ the oil.
19. Keep adding the sandlewood powder to the incense.
20. "Smudge" and "cleanse" your rose buds over the smoke. Break up the roses & place in flask.
21. Add 3 drops of the love oil to the flask.
22. With each drop, open your mind, body & soul for love.
23. You can even cut a piece of your hair at this point and place in flask.
24. Tie your red ribbon around the flask.
25. Hover the finished potion w/ cork over the smoke and cleanse it with good intentions.

Remember, this isn't hocus pocus. This is NOT for ingesting. This is simply to capture energy that you cultivated into your space, into your mind and into the world. What you expend out to the world will come back to you a thousand fold. Keep good intentions only.

With love,

Annabella

5 best winter outfits

As a recent transplant from Los Angeles to San Francisco. The one thing I don't know how to do very well is dress for winter. So I did my research, searched thousands of blogs and here's my top 5 pieces that I have found:

1. LAYERS!

- Try a button up collard shirt underneath a sweater ! Make sure that collar shows through - super cute!

2. Try a hooded sweatshirt under a leather jacket

3. If you have those summer torn jeans of yours - put on some athleasure wear under them. Doubling up the pants, and your warmth. And giving it a little edge.

4. Go buy yourself a pair of thick panty hose - you know, the one's your mom used to wear when she was 15. Top it off with a cute skirt! This way you can still be flirty in the winter and not be freezing.

5. I love this whole look: A light pair of baggy jeans, your fav adidas, and a long brown coat.