How to Let go of a toxic relationship.

 I can speak from 20 years of dating experience. How to let go of a toxic relationship is very complicated and it takes time.

The first step in letting go of a toxic relationship is understanding your personal value. You cannot let this person go until you first realize you have so much to offer, and I promise you, you do. Repeat in your mind over and over until you have crushed idea out of your mind "I deserve", "I am worthy", "I am amazing" , "I am beautiful" "I am powerful" etc. etc. Email me, I have tons of these!!

The second step in letting go of a toxic relationship is being aware of the health inflictions not letting him go is causing you. Mentally & physically. You may need to cry it out for two weeks once you let it go, and so be it. But don't let this person drag you into toxicity like drugs, alcohol or other. Let it DRAG you towards peace, ultimate serenity &  bliss.

The third step to letting go of a toxic relationship is to let go of the idealized version you created this person to be. They most likely are not as great as you created them to be in your mind, especially if they are not treating you right. The reality vs. the dream is very different.

The fourth step to letting go of a toxic relationship is to be content being alone. This is a tough one and one that I recommend to all my friends. It's ok to be alone!!!! It's fun! Find a new hobby, make new friends. If all of this is too hard to do, please email me and I will find you another solution (that could be an entirely other article).

The fifth step to letting go of a toxic relationship is to cut those chords! Mentally & literally. Tell yourself "no" everytime you go to thinking of texting them or letting them back in. You will set yourself back MONTHS, it isn't worth it. Go back to step 1 if you reach this stage.

The last step to letting go of a toxic relationship is saving some of that love that you have so much to offer, and so much to give, to yourself. Hey, you can hug yourself!! You can caress yourself! You can imagine the love frequency (this is part of a mindfulness practice) being sent to your own heart! Look in the mirror and say OUT LOUD - don't be embarrassed - "I LOVE YOU". 

The art of doing nothing.

 The art of doing nothing is actually very hard to achieve.

It requires patience, breath, and letting go. Who knew that the art of letting go was so difficult?!

Here are some tricks to letting go:

1. Repeat "Let Go" over and over in your mind until you exhaust yourself

2. You can try other mantras like "Sit Still", "Just Be" or other. And simply repeat over and over until you have calmed down.

3. You can put on HZ frequency music, and sit still listening to it  - search "HZ frequency" on youtube.

4. You can listen to a sound bath - on a meditation app or search for one on youtube

5. You can listen to the silence

6. Sit outside and watch the birds or nature, even if its just a tree, nothing fancy

7. Take a walk if you can, sit on a bench and watch the water or nature

The point is to try to sit HOURS at a time. 

The art of nothing can also seep into the art of conserving energy. This can relate to everything in your life :

1. Washing your clothes - do you really need to wash them so often? Unless you are very sweaty, maybe you can re-wear the same shirt 4x+

2. How often you cook - try cooking a larger amount at one time, this saves on the cleaning, cooking & back and forth process